Degeneration or Growth? Shrinking or Expanding?
August 31, 2008
It’s the end of another month, this has been a special month of growing and expanding; of going places I have not dared ventured before emotionally, mentally and spiritually. And as I launch out and expand the space before me, abundance opens up and greeted me. I begin to occupy a bigger space playing a bigger game.
Learning has always involved an element of conquering new grounds for me, whether it is leadership development or personal development. And you can choose to remain on familiar ground and be quite content with that or you can choose to expand your experiences by taking on new belief systems with new perspectives, cultivating new habits and gaining new strength and energy.
Please do not think that you can remain in status quo if you choose not to move forward. You degenerate if you do not constantly regenerate. As a guru puts it, "You are dying if you are not growing". You are on a journey, and if you are not putting in conscious effort to move forward, you will be swept backwards by the waves and tides that push against you.
Case in point, I have neglected my yoga stretches the past few months giving in to one excuse after another and to my astonishment, I suddenly realized that I had not been attending classes for a good 3 months! You can imagine what it was like when I first resumed my classes. I could barely do half the things that came so easily to me before. I could hardly hold in a half moon position and my warrior post was a little more shaky that I would like a warrior post to be.
Growing is simply occupying new and bigger space, places we were not comfortable occupying before. Growing is opening up to and taking hold of the abundance around us. I invite you take stock and see where you are today and where you want to be within a certain period of time. And then ask yourself what needs to happens for you to expand and embrace the abundance around and within you.
As you are taking on new perspectives and developing new thinking patterns, there will be some soreness and you will feel that it is a little uncomfortable and unnatural. Some muscle soreness after exercising is good though, it is a sign that you are strengthening and toning them. So take a little break to let it heal and develop before you stretch those muscles again. Then go back for more exercises and keep practising; the more you practice the better you get at it and you will be a stronger, bigger more grounded person. <
If you find yourself a single mom suddenly (not by choice but by circumstances), you will feel like you are thrown into unfamiliar ground and into the deep end of the ocean. And if you suddenly realize that your teenage boy is creating "moments" in the household, you will be wondering how you are going to handle the situation.
I want to remind you that growing involve stretching beyond what’s comfortable and familiar. Growing is making little progress consistently over a period of time. I want to encourage you to be consistent in taking the little baby steps and practise, practise, practise until you build your muscles to take on more capacity. And I look forward to hearing you share your success story of what that growing and expansion has meant for you!
A New Season of Possibilities and Opportunities
August 29, 2008
It’s the end of summer Life takes a turn and we heave a sigh of relief as the children go back to school, to the more structured and predictable life. And we can fall back onto our good friend; the "schedule". For many of is, this season is the start of new ventures and projects; a new season with a new reason.
I look forward to September and the last quarter of the year to be a wonderfully enriching period with possibilities of many beautiful things happening. There is ample time to reach out for the goals you set, there is abundance of opportunities to take hold of to craft the future of your dream.
I am 2 months into my year long project and I am happy to see the progress made so far. The road has been winding and the path has led me through valleys. However, it has all been very enriching and really fulfilling.
Yet I look forward to scaling greater heights and learning deeper truths. The journey has been colorful and I look forward to the scene when I reach the mountain top. And so here’s to the next 3 months, folks. Let’s press on and hit the high notes before we reach the end of the year!
Stress Free Lifestyle for Single Moms – 7 Tips to Diffuse Your Stress
August 28, 2008
The best gift you can give yourself as a single mom constantly juggling many balls at the same time is a stress free lifestyle. Lifestyle for single moms need not be stressful; it can be relaxing, fun and enjoyable. Here are some tips for attaining that:
Tip 1 – Take Slow, Deep Breadth – Stop what you are doing and take long, slow, deep breath without having your mind race through the many things you need to get done all at once. Taking 1 to 2 minutes of deep breadth whenever you need to will help release stress.
Tip 2 – Clear the Tension in Your Body – Loosen and relax any tensed muscles from the jaw to your neck, shoulder, arms, chest, hamstrings, knee calves and ankles. Unwind your body and hang loose. You will feel more composed.
Tip 3 – Clear Your Mind – Things can get overwhelming when we try to multi task. You think you are saving time but you are not able to give careful attention to any one of the task you are multi tasking. Choose one thing to work on at any one time and work your way through them one by one.
Tip 4 – Clear Your Vision – Know what’s the one thing you are pursuing so you do not end up running after all the good thing you want to have. Do not allow the many good things cloud out the one thing that you are pursuing.
Tip 5 – Clarify Your Purpose – Know why you are doing what you are doing. When your activities are aligned with your values, the activities will not seem burdensome but instead a mission and a joy which brings fulfilment.
Tip 6 – Choose Your Perspectives – Life can be heavy and monotonous while we grind through what needs to be down or it can be fun filled. What if we see each day as a chapter in a play and you the main actress? How can you lighten up this moment as you go about your tasks.
Tip 7 – Clear the Junk! – Throw away mindset, attitude, activities, plans that do not help contribute to the one thing you are pursuing. You will have more time and space for living and enjoying a stress free life.
Apply these tips and you can live stress free lives. Better still be in a community with other single moms and share lessons learnt applying these tips. Being able to talk about your experiences in a safe and supportive environment helps releases stress. Find a community in your area and get supported.
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