Stress Relief By Choosing What You Think About and Focus On
December 16, 2008
Have you ever felt that there has too much demand placed on you? And that life has given you too little resources to handle those demands? Were there doubts, worries, and fear that you may not be able to handle these demands?
Let me share with you that whatever situation you are in, stress exists only in your head and only if you believe in fears and doubts. The thing that will keep you from being calm and performing at your peak will be what goes on in your head.
1. You are what you think: If you think you can, you can because that’s what you are telling yourself. You will gear yourself up for plans, actions and support structures. If you think you can’t, well then, you can’t. You have just programmed yourself for failure. The battle has been lost in your head.
What you allow to grow in your head will take root and blossom. If you feed your mind with fears and doubts, they will grow so out of proportion that all you see will be the negatives. Conversely if you see yourself succeeding and you spend energy and time working towards that goal, you are on your way to succeeding.
2. You are always right. Whether you think you can or you can’t, you are right! So what do you want to tell yourself? And how would you want to "program" yourself?
I invite you to be open and tell yourself that you can, you are capable, you are magnificent and perfect. Then sit down and set some SMART goals, put in a workable plan – there is no short cuts. Consider what needs to happen for you to succeed and include those in your plans and support structures. You will succeed.
3. Work on what you need to do now. Once you have the plan, you need to work the plan. You don’t want to worry about what needs to be done later. You have already worked that out – just follow the plan. Moving ahead of yourself will not help. Trying to do what comes next when you have not completed what needs to be done now will only bring anxiety.
4. Focus on doing just one thing, your current task. When you are so concentrated and focus on the one task that is at hand you have no time or energy to worry about what comes next. Save yourself some stress, do just one thing at a time with 100% focus. Trying to do more than one thing at a time too will not help. You need to focus your all your energy and strength, they are very limited resource. Worrying about the next step will only distract you from the task on hand.
If you just do the one thing now, you will be moving forward every day. You will look back and be amazed at just how far you have come and how much you have accomplished.
5. You have much more power that you think you have. Reach deep within and tap into your potential. Allow the power to manifest as you work through your stress. You can live a stress-free life, that is if you believe you can.
If you are seeking ways to live a stress-free life, just drop me a mail on the Contact Us page or click here for a free mini e-course and audio recording. You can also connect with Louisa for on-going coaching and support for your unique situations.
Who Is Stressed?
December 15, 2008
Or perhaps the questions should be "Who is Not Stressed?" Everyone you meet will tell you they are stressed by one thing or another, at one time or another. Who has not known stress?
What stresses you? Common "stressors" I hear include:
- "I have too much to do"
- "I don’t have enough time"
- "My children are not helping me"
- "They are too demanding"
- "They get into trouble all the time"
- "I have poor health"
- " My work is very demanding"
- "I am too old or too young or too inexperienced
You are the unfortunate victim. But really why do these cause you stress?
The same situation that stresses you could be the same situation that drives and propels others forward. Same event different response. Some people thrive on having lots to do with little time. They love it and function best under these circumstances.
You get my point.
The external events, or situations are not the cause of the stress. They are just there and are neutral. It is how you interpret them that makes them either "stressors" or "motivators". You are only stressed if you allow yourself to be stressed.
So what are you telling yourself everyday?
How are you interpreting the events surrounding you?
Perhaps it will be good to step back and ask yourself “why am I stressed?” and work through it rather than throwing up your hands in despair and say “I can’t!"
The truth is you can! You have much more that you see on the surface. You just need to reach into your potential and overcome the sense of being stressed.
I am running a 4-week program in January 2009 on being stress-free. If you think you may find this helpful, hop over here and have a look. I have tailored it for single moms I can only imagine the amount of responsibilities and burden that are placed on them. But the principals holds true for everyone.
If you would like to have some conversation on "stress" and how you can be "stress-free", register yourself for the audio and the short mini-ecourse that I have prepared for you here. Just leave us your name and your email address. You will be my VIP and get updates on free preview call and special time limited discount for my courses and program.
I would love to have this dialogue with you and see how far you can go with a slight shift in your mindset.
Talk to you on the audio!
Of Computers And Birthdays
December 14, 2008
In case you wondered why there has been such a silence, well it’s a combination of computer issues and my being away from my desk for a while to celebrate me.
You see, my laptop decides to start giving me various issues the past week and I finally had to have the technician over to fix it . The poor man spent half a day trouble shooting and installing "stuff". And that’s how I spent my birthday – with the computer man trying to fix my laptop at my place! Not exactly how I would want it but it happens. And let’s just say that I missed having access to my laptop.
The good thing is that I celebrated me a day before the actual birthday so we could do the count down. And we had a good time catching up and reminiscing the birthdays we have had together since college days as overseas students.
The conversation went from how we used to have pot luck at each others apartment to how we now look 10 years younger that our chronological age! Pretty interesting combination of topics! Don’t ask me how we end up with that topic and don’t ask me for any secrets. I guess this is one of those things that happens when you seek to live a happy, fulfilled, relaxed life.
But let’s get back on topic. I am back! And I will be catching up with my blog posts and communication this week. I am eager to dive right back into action so watch this space!
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