We hear a lot being said about positive thinking and focusing on what’s working.
So do we focus on what’s working and not rock the boat even when there are clear violation, disrespect and abuse?
While I am an advocate of being positive and focusing on what’s working, I want to talk about giving what’s not working due attention.
Not because we want to focus on the negative but because we want to learn from it, to improve from it and to warn others of its danger and cost.
There are times when not giving feedback, not voicing out on what’s wrong and not “complaining” (in order to seek help) will not do you or anyone else any good. These are inconvenient and painful decisions.
If you are feeling strongly uncomfortable about something and if you are bothered at a fundamental level, you should talk to someone about it.
Do not try to push all non-positive thought away by thinking that these are bad. They are not. As there is light so there is darkness, just as there is day and night. Not all things (and all encounters) are positive and fine.
We are given the faculty of the mind to discern between right and wrong. If you feel strongly about something at the gut level, think through it. See if there are objective facts and seek a second opinion if you have to.
But do not push doubts and negative feedback away because you think all complaints are bad. Sometimes, not giving timely feedback is just as bad.
If you have learned a lesson, you want to warn others about it. You have the responsibility really.
Note: Making your experience bear a positive outcome does not mean that all experiences are positive and certainly not all things are “good’ and “positive”. We still need to use our discernment.
And we certainly need to alert others of the things that are not right and harmful so they do no suffer unnecessarily.all non-positive thought