To Use Or To Love?

I received another story that I thought is great to share and to reflect upon. And after you read this, I love to hear your thoughts on this story, so go ahead and leave a comment!


Story Begins Here


While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 year old son picked up a stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took the child’s hand and hit it many times not realizing he was using a wrench.


At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. When the child saw his father, with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’ The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.


Devastated by his own actions and sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written ‘LOVE YOU DAD’. The next day that man committed suicide.


Anger and Love have no limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life & remember this: Things are to be used and people are to be loved. The problem in today’s world is that people are used while things are loved.


Let’s try always to keep this thought in mind: Things are to be used, People are to be loved.


Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character;
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


End Of Story


Reflection 1:  We have many sophisticated and expensive toys: the iphone, that new designer’s evening gown or the suave car. It is easy to be too attached to these tools and forget that there are here to serve us.We also neglect to value the people around us, the people these tools are here to serve.


Those fingers will not grow again, and the scars in his heart will also remain. But a new car we can have anytime.


Reflection 2: Ending his own life did not help improve the situation, especially for the boy. This will leave a scar so deep in the child’s heart.


Often it takes greater courage to face our mistakes, and start afresh then to avoid dealing with the issues. Love for others will give us the courage to take the attention off ourselves and start over again for the sake of others – there is always a U turn. Yes, things will not be the same again, but the lesson learned will make us a better person.


Reflection 3: The secret to living an empowered life starts with having control over our thoughts. Nurture loving, empowering thoughts and we will live loving empowering lives.


Blessings and Love. 


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